Support

A couple of years ago, on my healing journey, my angels started revealing to me what real support was.  I started to see what true support looked like and what it felt like.  Having real support has been essential to my healing.  It has created a solid foundation for me to build a new life on, free from anxiety.  For me, seeing all the relationships in my life (friends, family, and even business) in the light of truth has been hard but also freeing. 

I used to give so much of my resources (my time, energy, and money) feeding relationships that weren’t supportive of me in return.  I had the shocking realization that most of the relationships in my life were crumbs.  Devoting so much of myself to these relationships left me feeling exhausted and unvalidated.  No wonder I had anxiety!  I was giving so much of myself, the whole loaf, and only getting crumbs in return.  This was all I knew.  I naively thought, others were doing their best coming from a place of genuine integrity.  I discovered that some people in my life were trying to pigeon hole me so that I might live my life in a small way so as not to threaten them and the small way they were choosing to live theirs.   

The truth is, we need the strength and comfort of solid support in our lives to heal and thrive.  Honestly identifying the true sources of support in my life was one of the hardest parts of my healing journey.  In fact, it’s something I’m still working on today.  I had to begin to figure out what I needed to feel supported.  First, I had to learn what real support felt like. 

Relationships are not always equal all the time.  There are no score cards.  However, overall support needs to be reciprocated.  Seeing the crumbs in my life was heart breaking yet crucial in helping me figure out what I needed to feel supported from my relationships.  I learned to embrace that I am worthy of support as well.  These set of questions zero in on what I need to feel supported.

(1)    Am I being seen and heard?

(2)    Can I express myself freely?

(3)    Is there mutual respect?

(4)    Is this relationship conditional?

(5)    Are my needs being met?

(6)    Is there mutual support when I need help too?

(7)    Is this relationship supportive or competitive?

Letting go of what wasn’t serving me and allowing me to grow was terrifying.  I found strength in surrendering to our angels and trusting their guidance.  By releasing the crumbs in my life, I have made room for the whole loaf.  I needed to make space for the good and positive to enter my life.  It’s hard to start sweeping up and discarding the crumbs in your life.  The crumbs are comfortable and it’s a known.  Yet, taking a leap of faith and stepping out into the unknown is freeing and allows the divine in to fill those free spaces with the love and light we deserve. 

Lots of love to you and the support in your life!